Why is it that Korean men do not date foreign women?
I still have not found a clear response to this question. In no way am I against interracial dating, marriage, or whatever may exist in between that constitutes relations between cultures. After all, I am a product of an interracial relationship and the embodiment of possibility that can occur between two individuals that would, in many ways, seem to be completly different. Love... holds the potential to create amazing and unexpected things.
However, in the extended stint I've had here in Korea, I still don't understand why I can give you so many examples of relationships (successful and unsuccessful) between foreign (white) dudes and Korean women, but I still haven't seen even one between a foreign woman and a Korean guy. AND when people ask me if I'm into dating Korean guys, I have to tell them that I really don't know.
What is that keeps Korean guys from dating women from other cultures?
In all instances when I've posed this question (to foreign men, to Korean women, to foreign women, to Korean men) I never seem to get an answer. It always seems to come down to "I don't know." The most I've ever gotten out of anyone seems to be that foreign women play a far too dominant role in relationships, that foreign women aren't as "sweet" as Korean women, that you would never be able take them home to mom so why bother, or that Korean men are simply too intimidated by the language barrier. Still, none of these seem like they are good enough reasons. People still fall in love regardless of these silly little things, or even despite big ones like a cultural difference.
In my experience the foreign guys I know dating Korean women all seem to be dating really amazing Korean women. These women are intelligent. They're obscure, rare, and completely exceptional. They speak English quite well. They have views that deviate from the Korean cultural norms. They are ridiculously beautiful and adore their man despite the foreign dude's beer gut or butt ugliness. You can be bald, fat, stupid, ignorant, etc. and still get the hottest chick on the block. AND (amazingly) this is (somehow) a power move (regardless of its lack of popularity with friends and family) on the Korean woman's part. They say, foreign guys have bigger dicks and supposedly treat them better. If the women aren't of the amazing variety (gorgous wine importers who look at Japanese porn) then these women are complete toys to these men--the less English (or any language for that matter), the better. I may be over-simplifying things a bit, or mushing them around, but you get what I mean.
Okay. Fine. Then, what is it that I, Miss Koco, would have to do, to even interest one of these exceptional English speaking creatures of the male variety? I know they exist. Must I play the part of the weak, submissive, vulnerable, giggling, whinny princess? It seems strange to me though. A culture of men who are "supposed to be" dominant must be filled with bottoms, wishing that some mistress would come along and play out all their secret fantasies... and if that's not the case there must be at least a few freaks eager to break from the norms. Then again, maybe that's just my western view on the whole subject.
I don't know...
Alright, white dues. I won't get mad at you. I'm just curious why it's like this. Tell me. AND there must be non-Korean women in relationships with Korean guys. Where are you? What is it like for you? What are your challenges? How did that happen? Why do you think that Korean guys are so hesitant to date foreign women, but it is so common when the gender changes? And (do I dare ask) what happens in homosexual relationships here with regards to foreigners?